Co-parenting after divorce is a challenge on many fronts. While you focus on doing what's best for your children, you're likely to have concerns about getting along with your ex-spouse.
Despite the fact that you're facing some challenges, there are tips you can follow to relieve your stress. Here are five things to experiment with:
- Don't think about yourself and no one else: The well-being of your children is most important. And even though it's not easy, you should also take into consideration the feelings of your ex. When everyone is on the same page, co-parenting becomes much easier to deal with.
- Understand your parenting agreement: With this by your side, you'll have a clear idea of what you can and can't do. Combined with a visitation schedule for the non-custodial parent, there shouldn't be any gray area.
- Remain flexible: It's a good idea to follow the conditions of your parenting agreement. It's also a good idea to remain flexible, as there are times when you or your ex will need to adjust your schedule.
- Don't turn every disagreement into a power struggle: There's no doubt that you'll disagree with your ex from time to time. You may even find that this happens all too often. You don't have to turn every disagreement into a power struggle. Picking your battles wisely will remove a lot of stress from your life.
- Don't put your children in an awkward position: It's natural for you to want to complain to your children about your ex. It's even natural for you to get the urge to deprecate your ex. Not only does this put your children in an awkward position, but it also makes you look bad.